Selflessness!! What's that?

Usually I write when I have gathered enough questions in my mind and I just want to release all of them. It is funny that when I pour my heart out, I somehow start with a quest to find answers to all these questions. And usually I come up with a solution as well.

But

This time it's different.

This time I just have my question ready. I am in the process of looking for an answer because what I see is not what I think and what I think is not what the world wants to see.

Sometimes, you get stuck in front of a wall. You know that there is a door out there but it camouflages in such a brilliant manner that you just keep finding the way out. Because of this interesting "human nature", you keep struggling.

You find     You search     You run     You knock     You cry     You give up!!!

And if you don't want to give up, you have a heavy price to pay for that. I don't know why, but I am ready to pay that price because I believe that that price would lead me somewhere.

And what the hell.

Let's go and see that what is ahead. Sometimes it's terrifying while at times it is exciting. At times your heart beat is just inaudible and at times your heart is beating out load.

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What is this word

"Selfish"

And what does it actually mean?

Oh!!

Don't get surprised. Just answer my question dear friend.

Ok

Now what is

"Selfless" 

I know what are you thinking.

"Are you kidding me bro"

Have some patience.

I hope you are ready with both the answers.

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I noticed this a few days back that "being selfless" is just a word. It is of no use and a selfless person can only exist in imaginary world, if at all it exists.

It is just a word to satisfy and calm down your soul that you are good as you think of others. Hence, SELFLESS!!

Tadaaaaaaaaaaaaa....

But if we think practically, is there anything like "selfless"?

In this competitive world, people just think about themselves- their happiness, their life, their near and dear ones, their sorrows etc. No one has any time to think about others. And don't just get me started on the working of NGOs. Everyone is after paper money or plastic money (least preferred as tax department is always active for their selfish interests). So, everyone is running after something for themselves only.

But I was told that there are such individuals who think about others as well. There are such people who care for others rather than their own happiness. I thought that even I was one of them. I had this mirage image in front of me that there are such people who think about others.

But a stimulus broke this mirage and I started thinking about the concept of selflessness.

I realized that when you do something good for others, something that virtually is unrelated to your wellbeing, it never is. Even if you do work in an NGO for good of others, what you get is self-peace and self-satisfaction.

These words have a prefix "SELF" which is enough of evidence to prove that to which degree it is a selfless act. Then people say that it is at least better than those who use others for some work.

But is it??

Because your so-called-selfless act is providing you inner peace while your so-called-selfish act just helps to get your benefit out of others. As mature being we all know that what provides long term benefits.

So,

HELPING OTHERS OR USING OTHERS???????

Mind-Think Some More

Mental Virginity-Need of The Hour(Part-3)

Guy- You are looking cute.

Girl(smiling)- Thank you..

(Talking to herself- What did he see in me that made me look cute to him? Am I looking weird or is he just trying to impress me? Is he trying to hit on me? Is he looking at me or just at my ...........?

What is actually going on in his mind? These guys are always interested in physical aspects...

Cheepoo..)

Such is our GIRL SOCIETY!!
Instead of feeling happy that she just earned a vote of compliment, she is worried that what did he actually notice.
Now just think friends-

                                              Who needs mental virginity this time??

                  

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Sometimes you confront such events which make you think that do I actually having some wrong intentions. Am I actually a bad guy.

Few days back, I faced a similar situation. A friend told me that one of my colleagues thought that I am trying to hit on her, and surprisingly this happened when I was just trying to be friendly with her.

I was so shocked by this revelation that I actually wanted to just approach her and ask that why did she felt so. All types of absurd questions about my personality started rising up in my mind. I was completely dumbstruck for some time. I even asked a very close friend that do I have some serious issues?
Only when she assured me on this, I felt better.
Phewwww...
Girls!!!
Just makes you go topsy-turvy.

You might think that why was I bloody disturbed? After all, its not that a big deal.

But

For me, it was!!

She is my co worker and due to her abstract thought process, I had to suffer for one entire month. She always acted in an ill mannered way with me. Irrespective of my level of input, she always said to me that I don't do anything. It became so irritating that every part of me suffered. Every sphere of the life got its share of this burden and my overall performance saw a big dip.

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I was travelling in the metro and was thinking about my behavior. My self introspection paused as I played some music on my phone. A popular song, "Saada Haq" diverted the focus of my mind.

Fever of this rock music changed the course of things. The anger, tension and every other thought reached its peak and the volcano erupted in the form of sweat profusion. 

That helped me a lot as i got rid of extra pressure. As soon as I got my focal length adjusted, my mind started working and recovered from the sedation. I thought every instance and re-evaluated it.

"Rohini East. Doors will open on the left. Please mind the gap"

Metro announcement lowered my body temperature and my CPU got some rest.

Now my Crazzzzzzy Rupish was out of the cage.

My mind started popping some cool (for me), crazy (for others) and bugging(for her) thoughts.

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Thing to think is that is it only the mental narrowness of agnatic society or is it just a pseudo presumption of effiminate people?

I guess the need of the hour is to open this narrowness irrespective of the sex.
Time to think some more...

P.S- One of my crazy thoughts was to write this blog and post it on her FB account...

Who is this "Mr. God"?

In my last blog, I expressed my whole "Mind at the Next Level Theory" and in the end,I mentioned that this situation helped me to re-connect with my God.
But before I express my views on this complex and very sensitive topic , I want all my readers to ask a few questions from your inner self.

• Do you believe in God?
• If yes/no, what made you take that decision?
• If Yes, then how can you believe in something that can't be seen?
• If No, then just think of the first words that come out of your mouth when you see something terrible? (Are they something like,"Oh Jesus" or "Holy Christ"?)

 In my early life( I just 19, but even I had an "early life" :-P ), I was an orthodox believer of God. In everything good, I used to credit God's presence and in everything bad, I used to think that maybe god has something better hidden in his chest for me.
I clearly remember an incident which made my belief more concrete.
About 2 years back, I was preparing for medicine. One day, I lost a very important note book. It had all my notes and important questions. I was very tensed. My mum checked every possible and impossible place. But everything was in vein. 2-3 days passed but every effort was futile. Next morning, while I was on my way to school, I passed by my society temple. I prayed to god that please turn the impossible task into possible. Believe me or not but when I returned from my school, I saw the register lying over the bed.
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Time passed and my exam time arrived. I was well prepared for medical exam. Two years of my end less efforts were to be tested in the next 3 hours. I was apprehensive about the exam but on the same side I was raring  to give my best shot. Luckily or unluckily,everything went good for me.

Result time was near. I was very anxious to see that where my future is destined. But fortunately or unfortunately, I lost everything in that battle.
All my dreams shattered and so did my belief in god.
" When you lose something big, you lose many big things in a go"

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PRESENT DAY/AFTER TWO YEARS
Yesterday's incident created a different atmosphere around me. It made me feel that whatever we have, whatever we do and whatever happens, everything is connected with each other.
If I would have got an admission in medico, I may have been leading a terrible life. A life where my actual self could have died long ago.
But today, I live a healthy and most importantly a HAPPY LIFE. I do whatever I feel like doing. Multiple things like Guitar, Dance, Karate, Day out with friends etc have returned to my life. I left all these things to get into a medical college. I changed myself. Now I feel more confident, more lively and more happy. And I guess, this is what actually life is.
"Live every moment like its your last moment alive"



Definition of God has changed in my dictionary. Earlier, I searched god in some idol or some prayer. But now, I found out that
God is in every person, in everything.
I strongly feel that there is some super natural force, that is circulating the positive energy all around us.
Don't you think that the negative energy is way more than the positive energy in the people around? Then from where do we get the
HOPE TO LIVE IN EVERY ODD SITUATION!!!
Time to think some more....

Source- Pratishtha Chaudhary

Mind- Think Some More Buddy!!!

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